Being married during this time is interesting. Well, I haven’t ever been married before, let alone during a quarantine. So my perspective is fresh and a bunch of firsts for me. Nor have I ever lived through a pandemic where we were forced to isolate ourselves at home. We are stuck at home. We are forced to stay inside. We are forced to face our family members, spouses, children, loved ones, roommates, 24-7. The only escape is work (if you’re an essential worker) or a short stint to the corner store (if it’s open) or better yet, walking your dog. Irritation levels are at its max.

I dedicate this post to my husband, mainly because he is the most patient, caring, calm, loving human being in my life and who has the biggest frikin ego I know. The one person that has vowed to love me, support me, care for me till our dying days. Damn that’s a long time! Lol!

These past few months have not been easy. Throw us into a pandemic when we have to stay in a small house regardless of bad days, moody days, overwhelming days, covid days. We don’t always want to address the issues. And at times we don’t. But we try to get to a better place every time. Even though we don’t know what we’re doing.

I have learned a lot about us. I’ve learned about what it takes to be married to each other. I have definitely had to re-learn things I’ve forgotten about him, as well as myself, and then us as a couple. I’m still learning when and how to shut my mouth and listen. To trust the process. To work on progression. To be the best person I possibly could be as a wife and stepmother. I’m still a work in progress. This is going to take more than quarantine to get to where I want to be.

Admitting when we are hurt, upset, wrong, to each other is something we have to work on. This quarantine is forcing us to face it head on. I am no where near perfect. I’m still working on my faults. And maybe it’s the universe’s way of saying, “stay inside and take care of your shit! Get through it together!”.

I know that sometimes words do not say it all. Half of it is actions that speak volumes. I hope that I can continue to show him how much he is appreciated and grateful for what he has taught me and given me this far. For being patient with me and simply loving me.

Every argument, discussion, date, meal, time we share together is a growing period for me and as well as us, as husband and wife.

“Who is that lucky woman in the scrubs married to that handsome, sweet guy?”

That’s me.

How do you show your spouse/partner they are appreciated? What do you do to get through the rough times during the pandemic to minimize irritation? How are you all keeping sane right now?